I woke up like this…. Not really. The grays started setting in early huh? 🙂
Hi, I’m Jessica from New Jersey. I enjoy long walks on the beach, fine wines and sarcasm….

        I started writing because getting things out of my brain is helpful and fun. Also, I grew up with a dad that loved writing poetry and I guess I took after him. This blog space is likely to be real and raw. It’s who I am. This includes throwing around sarcasm and joking about things that shouldn’t be joked about. (Nope! Death isn’t off-limits for me.) Those closest to me already know this. While I realize this can be too intense for some, I don’t know how to change it. Nor do I think I want to. I love the idea of sharing ideas, recipes, knowledge and personal experiences. As individuals we all have so much to offer and it’s what makes the world such an interesting place.

       I have a background in banking and in culinary. I grew up cooking. It’s one of the positive memories I have from my childhood. I also briefly attended culinary school and used to do some catering. My passion for cooking got away from me because life happened. 

       Becoming a mother while having to work full-time took much of my attention. Then during my divorce from my first husband I was a single mom. So survival became the name of the game. Thank god I got through that mess.  My current husband came along and he is the most supportive and patient man a girl could ask for. I said I became a mother, so that means I have two lovely little girls. My goal in life is to raise them right and not disappoint them.

*Chaos! Chaos everywhere!* I grew up in a house with functioning drug addicts. While the core of my parents was wonderful, loving and supportive, they were bridled with so much internal conflict that they reached for many different drugs but especially crack/cocaine to handle their emotions. Being the child in that situation I saw the non-functioning parts of them. Society got to see the 2 upstanding citizens who were raising an overachieving little girl and I was blessed with dysfunction! 😀 Their charade ended in 2004. Leaving me alone at 19 and with their baggage. Thanks guys! 

         As you can see my life has been quite busy. Now at 32, I am a stay at home mom. Trying to find myself after being forced out of the rat race. Trust me I did not go willingly. I love being available to raise my girls. I do understand how fortunate I am but being home was never for me. I was never allowed to relax and take life as it came. Always juggling and wearing many hats. So while I’m certainly not as stressed as I once was, the change itself has been a struggle for me. This blog is my first true step in becoming my authentic self. Someone I had never had a chance to be. That being said,  I hope you’ll join me on my journey and road to finding harmony. I look forward to having you here and learning more as I go. You can follow me on Twitter @JessTheMess or email me at

Killed that angry bird princess style. With a crown and a smile.

8 thoughts on “About Jessica

  1. Lovely bio and stay at home mum is so cool…and I can say that because I’m doing that with my kids too 🙃

    Thank you for following my humble blog…I am henceforth returning the kindness 😊

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      1. You are more than welcome 😊

        And no, it isn’t but I’d not change it now…all the things I would have missed out on…Shame it’s cost me my sanity 🙃

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